Growing up, I was a shy and creative child. I’ve always been a people pleaser. People pleasing is a part of me that was created to get a need met. If I was a good girl, I knew I’d get the love, attention, and affection I needed to succeed. I know many other people can relate to this part. I received a lot of positive attention because I followed all the rules.  However, only listening to these parts for years caused a natural opposite reaction where I felt the need to rebel, and an addiction part was created to respond to the pressure the people pleasing part put on me. The addiction part was trying to give me some relief, because I was exhausted from trying so hard to be perfect.  Through my own therapy, and learning Internal Family Systems, I have been able to find Self. Self feels calm, clear, connected, curious, creative, courageous, compassionate, and confident. When I am in Self, I am balanced. Instead of swinging from one extreme side (perfectionism), to the other (depression), I can feel more in control of my decisions. This has helped me in my personal relationships, my relationship with my children, and feeling more consistent in my own health goals. I now set healthy boundaries for myself, I can drink alcohol in moderation, and rest when I feel I need to rest. I don’t shame myself or criticize myself like I used to. Using this approach has given me a whole new life, and I am so grateful for it!

I would love to work with you to teach you what it took me YEARS to figure out!